Archives for February 2015

So far we have talked about 2 R’s: Reframing your view about couples therapy and recognizing the part you play. Now let’s move on to the third R: Resolve to move out of your comfort zone.

Before your first couples therapy appointment, ask yourself: What can I do differently than I have done previously? It may be something that seems deceptively simple. For example, listen more and talk less. Or it could be to speak up instead of continuing to keep the peace at all costs.
 
NOTE: Here lies where you may make a simple, but dangerous, mistake. Inadvertently, you may end up giving all of your power away to your partner… if you decide you are only a success if your partner changes. Therefore, you are basing your success on your partner’s response rather than basing your success on your own actions.

Couples therapy is a time for learning and growing as a couple. It’s not a time for blaming or rehashing old conflicts. It’s a time to take a moment to sit down in this fast-paced world and really listen to what your partner is saying. Whether you’ve been going to couples therapy for years or are about to have your first appointment, these tips can help you make the most of marriage counseling.